More compassion. Less aggression. - SheSheBonBon Le Motto - S6G12We are encouraged when we see real progress against bullying.  We strongly believe the bully problem can’t be fixed with a single event, or even an annual event like a seminar or rally.  These don’t hurt, but they don’t really help as much as we need.

The root of bullying starts way before the act. To get at the root of the problem, we must foster an environment of inclusion.  One recent article talks about “acceptance training”.  Physical training often focuses on muscle memory, where your body starts to know what to do through repetition. This can also be applied to mentally training through repetition.

At King Philip Middle School in West Hartford, Connecticut, they talk about anti-bullying, but more importantly, they have a “Character Counts” program.  Cultivate the roots of goodness to keep the weeds of bullying from growing.  From this, 8th grader, Kyra Bukowski, says, “After awhile, it’s in your mindset. So, you start to do more acts like that without even knowing it.” This is the “muscle memory” of compassion we believe can be instrumental at keeping bullying at bay.

At King Philip Middle School, one mural says, “Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions”. To this, we share our words: “More compassion. Less aggression.”

Accept more. Judge less.Lupita Nyong’o graced the silver screen in a role that won her an Oscar.  Then, she graced us with an acceptance speech that won our confidence that she will be a positive, transformational leader for a generation of young women.

Prior to her Oscar win, she was awarded the Best Breakthrough Performance Award at the 7th annual Black Women in Hollywood Luncheon for her work in “12 Years a Slave”. In this speech, she said, “I hope that my presence on your screens and in magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey, that you will feel the validation of your external beauty, but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside.”

Lupita, of Mexican-Kenyan descent, shares her stories of acceptance and the desire for acceptance. She shares her history of being bullied – “teased and taunted about [my] night-shaded skin.” and even praying for lighter skin as a result. She tells how her self-image changed when she saw the international acceptance of South Sudanese supermodel Alek Wek – someone who looked like her.

Self acceptance shines through when she said, “Beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.”  It’s a valid mantra for us all.

We thank her for amplifying our motto, “Accept more. Judge less.”


Vaiana Attinger and SheSheBonBon on Elizabeth StreetWe are grateful for the interview of SheSheBonBon founder, Vaiana Attinger, by Elizabeth Street, the popular web site for “chic moms who know that life is best lived with style.”

In the article, Vaiana shares a few insights about her own personal style .

We invite you to check out Vaiana’s interview and the other great articles on the Elizabeth Street site.

SheSheBonBon was created to encourage and empower women, young and old.  Moms are a big part of our community and we are big champions of encouraging moms to “maintain their elegance” and be a strong role model for their kids.  The moms in our community are also part of the reason we will be launching some initiatives in 2014 around issues that are important to mothers everywhere, including ways to combat bullying and support the bullied.

More Gratitude - Le Motto by SheSheBonBonGratitude matters, and this is a call to action for all of us to actively practice gratitude through word and deed.

Words have power. Like anything with power, it can be used for good or bad – to build up or to tear down – to create or to destroy.

As Diana Kapp, Wall Street Journal contributor, writes: “Gratitude works like a muscle. Take time to recognize good fortune, and feelings of appreciation can increase.”

SheSheBonBon’s mission is to “Empower people to be more than a spectator when there is an opportunity to make a positive impact on a situation.”

In every interaction, either you change someone’s life or they change yours. This effect is obvious when you have an active, real-time dialogue with a person, but you impact others even more, without even knowing, just with your presence and behavior that is observed by those around you. Smile and open a door for a stranger, and you likely inspired countless others who observed your action.

Let’s stop being passive to what goes on around us – not just what’s in the news, but what happens in front of us. Apathy, passivity and indifference desensitizes us. We then start to accommodate, then accept, behaviors that we used to find unacceptable (e.g. vulgarity in our culture). It may seem easier to stay on the sidelines or just try to ignore the negativity, but this only fuels more negativity.

The Velocity of Action.

The effects of your actions have a ripple effect of consequences. If you do or say something positive, it will carry beyond the moment. Others observe and are inspired to do the same, triggering another wave of positive action – just like the wide ripple from a single drop of water on a still pond. Every action you take is another drop that will ripple through everyone around you. Every drop is either positive or negative. We choose positive.

“More compassion. Less aggression.” “Accept more. Judge less.” “More humanity. Less cruelty.” These are some of the mottos we share on Le Motto tees. Beginning in 2014, we are reserving a portion of our profits to support initiatives that promote gratitude and the importance of not remaining on the sideline, but instead being part of social change.

Gratitude Project - Le Motto by SheSheBonBon

Most of the problems among people arise from one of two situations: we act without thinking, or we think without acting. Le Motto tees inspire positive thinking and consequently prompt positive activity. Wearing a Le Motto tee is not a one-time event; it’s an opportunity to share what you stand for every second you’re wearing it.

A study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies examined 1,035 high-school students and found that those who showed high levels of gratitude reported having stronger GPAs, less depression and envy and a more positive outlook than less grateful teens. Many more studies support this, too, and we will be featuring many of them here. In other words, there is tangible evidence that Le Motto tees make a difference by empowering people to share positive words.

While we might not be a silver bullet, our drop of positivity ripples in the right direction.

More GratitudeIn the United States, we celebrate Thanksgiving on the fourth Thursday of November each year – a day to give thanks for what we have been blessed with. This holiday is rooted in harvest time celebrations that many other countries observe in similar ways.

However, what happens the next day? Do we return to our routines and forget the gratitude that drives this holiday?

We are grateful for the support we have enjoyed from our customers and the fashion bloggers around the world who have shared our mottos – our words of encouragement and motivation – with their readers. We are grateful for the opportunity to create the Le Motto brand and share positivity with the world.

However, the purpose of this post isn’t just thanks, but it is to remind us that gratitude should be practiced every day, not just on Thanksgiving, or the Moon Festival, Chu-Sok, Cerelia, Erntedankfest, or other similar holidays.

Gratitude is a mindset, not a holiday, and we are grateful for you.

Presenting “Unity” – a Le Motto cross body zipper purse for the SheSheBonBon 2014 Collection.

This purse is not only compact and stylish, but it is incredibly functional with three separate zippered compartments, like three clutches unified into one nice handbag. The motto on the outside is a positive personal statement and conversation starter. Material options: canvas and vegan faux leather or just vegan faux leather. Our look book shows the available mottos. Also available without a motto. A great gift at MSRP $129 USD. To learn more about when and where you can purchase this bag or for wholesale inquiries, please contact us at

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As we start to introduce our brand to positive thinkers around the world, we discover communities of fashion bloggers and people who love fashion enough to share their own “lookbook” styles.  One venue we just discovered is “Bloglovin”.  We’re just getting started, but please follow us there and please also share your tips on how to be a good participant and get the most out of being on Bloglovin.

More elegance. Less violence.